Why People Love to Hate how long ago was 8 weeks
8 weeks ago, I was on top of the world. I was in my new apartment (the one I’ve had for 2 years) and all I could think about was how happy I was to be getting settled in. I was getting paid, my old apartment had a huge bed and was brand new, I was eating good food and working out, and I was happy. Then I had a huge fight with my boyfriend.
I did a little research this morning and it turns out that 8 weeks is when you’re supposed to get paid your first paycheck. I’d still just gotten my first paycheck, but I started my new job and was getting paid in the 6 weeks between my last paycheck and the day my new job started.
This is an example of what I like to call “expectation management”. If you expect something to happen, you will find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again.
This is a good analogy because it’s a really good time to discuss expectations. We expect that we will wake up every day at the same time, that we will have a job that allows us to go to work, that our boss will be understanding, that everything is going to be okay, etc. etc. etc.
Of course, we have to expect that it will happen all of the time, because we are not in control of when we wake up. However, we can control what we do with our time, what we eat, how we exercise, how we make our homes, etc. etc. etc.
The thing that many people don’t realize is that we can’t control our expectations. What we can control, is the length of time we spend in each expectation. When we wake up in the morning, we expect our alarm clock to be right by our bed, we expect our boss to be there to check up on us, that our car will be safe and sound when we pick it up, etc. etc. etc.
We can control the length of time we spend in each expectation, but that is not the only thing we can control. We can control how and when we wake up, how and when we go to sleep, how fast we drive our car, how fast we get up in the morning, how many times we clean our house, etc. etc. etc.
We can control how long we’ve been awake, how long we’ve been in bed, how much we’ve drunk, how often we’ve had sex, how much we’ve had sex with our spouse, how many times we’ve had sex with our partner, how many times we’ve had sex with our significant other, etc. etc. etc. But we can’t control when we die, or even if we die. We can’t control when we wake up or fall asleep.
In the last 8 weeks, I’ve probably gone to sleep, left my house, and walked downstairs. And I’ve probably had sex more times than I’ve drunk more drinks. And my wife and I have had sex more than we’ve cleaned more houses… and all that stuff is just a bunch of stuff that doesn’t help.